This isn’t something that everyone does when it comes to talking about sex but growing up as a teenager and into adulthood, the topic of sex seemed a bit taboo, especially when it comes to the more niche areas of sex like BDSM, etc. But why are we so shy to talk about sex? Is it something we’re expected to feel or could it be a fear of judgment when talking so freely about it. I’ve got a great group of friends who are all very open and real about these topics so I’m grateful for that, however, not everyone is the same.
*This is a collaborative post.
*This is a collaborative post.What’s Your Body Count?
This is something that was frequently discussed behind people’s backs when I was at university but also often openly. For some reason, some feel the need to judge others simply by the number of people they’ve slept with. As if it’s something to be ashamed of that the higher your body count, the easier you are or the fewer people you’ve slept with, the more of a challenge you are. I think like so many topics I’ve discussed on my platforms, it seems to be more judged when women have a higher body count than men. And most of the time, it’s men who have a problem with it. Since when does body count matter anyway? Exploring your sexual preferences and understanding what turns you on and what doesn’t is important. Whether you sleep with 5 people, 50 or over 100, it shouldn’t be something that’s held against a person just because you’re not reaching those numbers or you don’t agree with it.
The number of sexual partners you have shouldn’t impact your self-worth or the decisions you make when it comes to who you sleep with. It’s one of those topics that people really like to stick their noses into.
The World Of BDSM
The attitudes surrounding BDSM are often met with a flushed face or a look of shock. Not all of us will be interested in a BDSM hookup but it’s important to understand that we all have different needs and wants in the bedroom. Some people like to be dominated, whilst others like to be the ones in control. It’s something that should be fun and satisfying, yet a lot of people don’t like speaking about enjoying it for fear of social rejection almost. For so long, it seems as if BDSM and everything that’s part of it, is done in secret and is often something that’s done very privately.
So whether you’re after a mistress dating site or you’re looking or you’re wanting to try something new, don’t let society stop you from trying it. I’m hoping that we can be more open to these conversations and providing the education needed to practice safe sex in all aspects of it. During Covid-19, obviously, it makes things harder to meet others in person so it’s important to do this when it’s safe to do so during this pandemic.
Society Judges Us
It’s true for so much of what goes on in the world. Society is always quick to judge those who aren’t confining to the ‘norms’ or expectations that society has set for us. And it’s sad because as a result, a lot of people have to hide things that shouldn’t be hidden or feel like they can’t be their authentic self 24/7.
What do you think about the conversation around sex? Let me know in the comments below!
*Disclaimer – This is a collaborative post with My BDSM Hookups. All words are my own.
