Now I wouldn’t normally use the phrase ‘respect your elders‘ as I find the saying a little out-dated and biased to the specific generation. But from what I experienced today on the bus to work, I feel a little differently towards it.
Please note that I’m not going to blame the parents for bringing their children up the wrong way because A. I do not have children of my own so cannot fully judge someone’s mistakes and B. it doesn’t matter whether you come from a good or bad background, the decisions you make as an individual reflect on you and you alone. I believe that from a certain age you make your own decisions and whether they are influenced by others or what’s around you, at the end of the day it’s your choice, no one is holding a gun to your head.
So I was sitting on the bus minding my own business – I believe I was reading my latest book by Stephen King – when there appeared to be some commotion going on from the back of the bus. There were two ‘kids’ and I’ll call them kids because they acted like kids, sitting at the back of the bus making comments and singing loudly. These boys were probably around 13-16 years old. A woman, who was sitting in front of them with her child had walked down to the front of the bus to speak to the driver. This is more or less what she said:
‘There are two boys sat up there, making trouble and they seem to be burning something. Can you please do something, they’re being very disrespectful and rude.’
The woman went back up and then continued to argue with the boys, after they made some inaudible comment that I didn’t hear. Now from what I was hearing beforehand and seeing, the driver (albeit he was driving) must have clearly heard and seen this happening in the back. His handling of the situation, could not have been any worse. The driver pulls in at the next stop and walks up to the back of the bus and mumbles, with no sense of authority or confidence, that if they continue to misbehave then he’d call the police.
WAIT A MINUTE. Rewind. Threatening these boys with the police is probably not the best way of approaching them, considering from their reactions that the police station was one of their local hang outs. What he should have done, was kick those little inconsiderate and excuse my french, arseholes off the bus there and then. But no he didn’t and in doing so he did nothing to aid the situation or to assist a commuter, who with her child, seemed very distressed.
This is the part where my blood boils and I was biting my tongue to not say something. Probably best because let’s be honest, this is London and I’m a lot more street-wise now than I was in Aberystwyth.
One of the boys out of the two, starts mouthing off saying he can do what he wants, when he wants. The other boy was basically his personal hyena, laughing at everything he said. His response to singing on a bus, he said wasn’t a crime either (personally he sounded flat, so I beg to differ).
There are so many things wrong with this boy. For one, the ‘I can do what I want, when I want’ statement is so stubborn and pathetic, that I wanted to go up to him and slap him with a wet fish (although I don’t condone violence but a wet fish to the face seems acceptable in this situation) and tell him to mature a little. The boys were OBVIOUSLY burning something because the smell was so apparent. The driver however, didn’t seem to notice and I don’t think he would notice if they were burning whatever they were burning, right in front of the driver’s face. Getting back to the boy mouthing off; his attitude and lack of respect towards the woman was appalling and I hope that my children make the right decisions in life and don’t turn out like that boy. The driver, after making no attempt to send them off the bus, goes back to his seat and continues to drive to the next spot where the boys then get off. The boys snigger a sarcastic ‘see ya later darling‘ to the woman as they leave the bus.
The scene I witnessed this afternoon is still making me reel just thinking about it now. Why is it that individuals choose to be like this? Not just the lack of respect to an elder, but to another human being. This woman had a child sitting next to her and these boys were making rude comments and burning something ON A BUS of all places, risking the lives of other people. If there’s one thing I will teach my children, it’s that of the old saying ‘treat others how you would like to be treated‘. That boy, and I wouldn’t be surprised if it happened, is one day going to mess with the wrong person.
I’m sorry to rant but this really annoyed me today. I think it’s more disappointing though than anything to see a younger generation (and I’m not tarring everyone with the same brush here, just these two boys in particular) treat others like they’re nothing. It was disgusting yet heart-breaking.
Anyway I’ll stop now else I could go on all night. Have good sleeps and remember, treat others with respect. No matter who you are or what you do, no one should have to be subjected to disrespect by another person. No one.
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