It’s Time To Get Your Confidence Back!


One of the hardest things to do in the modern world is to actually look at yourself and feel good. The world around us is constantly telling us that we’re supposed to feel bad about ourselves, usually so that it can sell us something that is supposed to make our lives better. In a world that is specifically designed to profit off you feeling like you’re not worth anything, having any amount of self-confidence can be a real challenge. But that doesn’t mean that having confidence is going to be impossible.

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The truth is that there is no reason for you not to be able to look in the mirror and feel fantastic. Of course, that’s often a lot easier said than done. But there are plenty of things that you can do to try and get your confidence levels back up. Here are just a few of them.


Take care of yourself

If you want to start feeling better about yourself then one of the first things that you can do is to actually start looking after yourself a little better. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with taking a day to relax here and there or to get some takeout every now and then. After all, things like that are part of what makes life fun! However, if you never do any exercise and you eat junk food all of the time, that’s going to make you feel worse and worse.

And this isn’t because looking a certain way is somehow ideal, but simply that looking after yourself is going to make you feel good. Getting at least a little exercise every day and eating healthily is going to make your life a whole lot more pleasant. Not only that but taking the time to look after yourself, whether you’re having a pamper session with aloe vera face masks or a long soapy bubble bath, is going to help you unwind and remember that being kind to yourself is always going to feel good.

Society often wants us to focus on what should be doing but sometimes it’s okay to just focus on yourself for a while.


Get off social media for a while

Social media is an amazing thing. There are plenty of ways in which social media has helped improve the lives of millions of people. After all, it allows people to communicate and keep up with one another no matter where they are in the world, it’s made long distance relationships far easier, and it’s even given people a chance to share things like art, music, and other things they’ve made more easily than ever before. However, that doesn’t mean that social media is all good.

The truth is that social media has a darker side, especially if you’re the kind of person who’s susceptible to comparing themselves to others. Social media lets us present a carefully curated version of ourselves to the world that is often very far removed from reality. Looking at your friends Facebook pages and Instagram accounts could well make it look like their lives are much better than yours.

However, the truth is that these things are probably not a true reflection of their lives and who they are. Make sure that you take the time to step away from social media from time to time to remind yourself that the things you see on the screen aren’t always representative of real life.


Take selfies

Selfies are one of those things that a lot of people like to dismiss and a sign that we, as a society, are becoming more and more vain and conceited. But here’s a question: who is it hurting if you take a selfie? The answer, obviously, is no one. No one gets hurt and a lot of evidence shows that selfies are actually a great way to increase your confidence levels and self-esteem.

After all, a selfie lets you have power over how a picture looks and lets you get to know your face a lot better. You learn what angles are flattering and what lighting is right for your skin tone. So get out there and start taking as many selfies as you can. You don’t even have to post them online. If you’re feeling yourself then take a whole bunch of selfies to look back on and give yourself a bit of a confidence boost when you need it most.

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Get used to your body

Most of us aren’t actually that used to the way that our bodies look. This is because we spend most of our time trying to hide them away. However, being able to take the time to actually look at your body can really help you build up more and more confidence in it. In the same way that kids who see their parents bodies a lot when they’re very young often grow up with much more positive feelings about their own bodies, being able to look at yourself and get used to it is going to stop you from constantly wanting to hide away from your body.

Just stand in front of the mirror naked for a while. Take in your body with all of its bumps and lumps and imperfections. Remember that these are things that everyone has and that no one is ever going to look perfect. This might sound a little odd but getting to know the little details of your body really can help to make you feel much more secure and confident in it.


Dress for your size and shape

Now, I should start this by saying that anyone can wear whatever they want. If anyone tries to tell you that you’re the wrong shape, size, gender, or whatever else to wear a specific type of clothing, feel free to ignore them and do whatever you like. However, one of the most common issues that a lot of people end up with is that they try and force themselves into clothes that are simply not made for them.

A lot of people are so ashamed of the idea of being a certain size that they try to force themselves into clothes that are too small for them and end up in clothes that don’t fit and make them look even worse. In reality, if those people just wore clothes that were the right size, they’d almost certainly end up looking and feeling a whole lot better.


Get out of your comfort zone

Of course, sticking with clothes and styles that you know are going to be right for you is only going to get you so far. If you want to really bring your confidence levels up then it might be time to try and get out of your comfort zone. Maybe you’ve always wanted to dye your hair and exotic colour or maybe there’s a style of fashion you’ve never quite at the nerve to embrace?

If that’s the case then now’s the time to do it! It can be pretty scary to try something new at first but you will often find that getting out of comfort not only helps you take more risks but it actually feels fantastic. Once you’re able to strut your stuff in something that you’re not used to, there’s nothing that can stand in your way.


Cut toxic people out of your life

One of the saddest things in life is the fact that, for a lot of us, the real source of our lack of confidence is the people around us. It could be friends, family, coworkers, or anyone else. There are plenty of people who love nothing more than to drag other people down and make them feel bad about themselves. The reason for this usually stems from the fact that those people often lack a lot of confidence in themselves.

However, that doesn’t mean you should ignore or accept the things they’re saying. Confront them about it and refuse to let them drag you down or hurt your feelings like that. And if they refuse to stop treating you poorly and trying to make you feel bad about yourself. There’s nothing wrong with deciding to walk away from that relationship. You don’t need toxic people in your life and you’re well within your rights to cut them out entirely.

One of the worst things that the modern world tries to teach us is that feeling confident is somehow a bad thing and that we should be ashamed of it. People who take selfies are accused of vanity and anyone who dares to behave in any way other than what’s acceptable is judged incredibly harshly. But the truth is that there’s nothing wrong with high levels of confidence.

After all, who are you hurting by loving yourself? What harm could feeling good about the way you look and who you are really do? The truth is that the world wants you to feel bad to sell you something. Don’t let that happen and never let go of how much value you really have.

Do you have any tips for building confidence? Let me know in the comments below.


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